Wondering how these stages would impact your same-sex relationship goals or your gay couple relationship goals? Wondering what stage your same-sex relationship is in? Gay and lesbian relationships typically involve the same steps as straight relationships, though there are some subtle differences that are important to recognize. The stages can be fluid their starting and endpoints blurry, and sometimes couples move two steps back before springing forward. All relationships go through stages as they move from “just met” to “just married” and beyond.